So I was originally going to write this post from a very different context. I just finished a weekend event at church with our student ministry on discipleship. While I lead a house full of freshmen, I also was asked to be the event’s videographer, so I’ve spent the better part of a day rendering media out and turning huge files into usable pieces. To pass the time as my computer rendered out about a terabyte of footage, I decided to do a little reading. Have you ever given someone advice on something, but only to then have to swallow your own medicine cause you’re not doing what you just advised someone to do? That was me, just a few minutes ago. Thanks God, for the correction and the conviction!
Anyway, back in January I attended Passion in Atlanta, Georgia with a group of friends and some of our high school seniors. While I was there, I bought Ben Stuart’s book Single, Dating, Engaged, Married as I have enjoyed Stuart from his time as the lead pastor/teacher at Texas A&M’s Breakaway Ministries. In 2015, I was able to hear Stuart speak at Passion and I’ve been listening to his sermons from Passion City Church D.C. via podcasts. Y’all, Stuart doesn’t hold his punches back, nor does the Holy Spirit lessen it’s lessons. You see, for my small group during this past weekend the focus was on truth. For more than a handful of the young men in my group said that they were at this weekend event to grow closer to God. Well, through the course of the weekend it was evident that they were not spending time with God. And honestly, neither have I.
In my college small group, for many weeks now we’ve been going back to a point that was brought up at Passion in January. The enemy, sin, has power over us because we are unable to identify where the temptation, the whispers, the lies are coming from. We do not know truth! Frankly, looking at my generation and the generations coming behind me, it’s painfully apparent that they don’t know truth either! The point is, is that lies look freaking stupid when held up against the truth! The lies look foolish! We all know those people growing up. You know who I’m describing. The people who try so hard to be something that they’re not. They stick out like a sore thumb. They’re fake. And while they may look the part, the moment they open their mouths to speak, the illusion is broken. How can we know truth from the lies? From the fake news, not to get political. Y’all, while fake news and misguided information is spread everywhere from our social media pages to the evening news, the devil is the most consistent source of fake news!
Long story short, while I was waiting for my media to finish rendering I was reading Ben Stuart’s book. One thing I’ve been focusing on and truly seeking from the Lord is ways to love people better. To share the love that God has for them through a word, a look, and/or a touch. To make an impact on the lives of those around me, and while I’ve been able to do some of that… I had a hard pill to swallow tonight. I’m not even half way through the first chapter and the Holy Spirit slapped me across the face. Y’all, I’ve been kind of idle. I’ve not been reading the Word, I’ve not been praying much. I’ve just been going through the motions. I’ve been fake. I was the very thing I was warning my students about being. Just as we have to know the truth in order to weaken the power of the lies, so too do we need to have a source of life to be a source of life to another. I’ll quote Stuart as his words are far more potent than mine.
“When you have a source of life, you are a source of life. But where there is scarcity, desperation will set in. And desperation can easily become exploitation of others. If you are disconnected from a source of life, your “oxygen tank,” then you will attempt to suck life out of someone else. You will be tempted to use people to try and get your sense of self validated.” –Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. Page 4.
Ouch. Y’all… I hate to admit it, but I’m not going to let shame have any hold over me. I’ve not been clinging to my source of life. Rather, I’ve just been going through the motions. As a leader, as someone who has people who are seeking that source of life, I’ve been letting them down. I’ve been failing myself, and failing them. You see, I haven’t been obedient in the pursuit of God. I’ve formed a habit of not doing that. While I do not believe that I’ve sucking the life out of others, nor do I believe that I’ve been exploiting people for my own gain. I do see where selfishness has crept up into my life and taken hidden roots. My desires, frustrations, and motivations have been slowly leeched by selfishness and disobedience. My ability to be a source of life to others has been corrupted, but not extinguished.
For a book that is geared toward relationships… it does not stumble from making it perfectly clear that before we can even consider pursuing someone we must first pursue God. Like a mirror, I had to read the medicine that I was giving out with some remorse. I had to evaluate where I’ve been lingering and take a look around to see the signs of structural instability and get out of there. My heart sunk realizing that I’ve put myself in this situation, the realization that I’ve been unfaithful to God. That I’ve cast aside the truth in favor of lies and selfishness. Fortunately, God sent us a helper in the Holy Spirit to convict us of our wrong doing and to place back onto a path of restoration. Anyway, I’m going to end this here, y’all.
Grace and Peace,